A short word letter of advice..

Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you have so many words, so many emotions, and feelings that you wish to express in order to convey something to someone..but when it comes to that perfect moment that plan fails...?

Maybe you are having a semi debate with someone (maybe a little sensitive someone) and all of a sudden the conversation escalates and somehow that initial discussion turns into a heated argument.

 I'm the type of person that absolutely hates arguments and the minute they are over I regret them completely and wish I could take them back. I find when I get upset, like many of us, I can say too many things that I don't necessarily mean or maybe without explanation they will be taken wrongly. So immediately after, or at least quite soon after, I find myself wanting to apologize and try to make up.
However, sometimes the argument happens with someone who is a little more stubborn and takes a little more time to calm down.

Crap.

So what do I do...well.. I have this small thing which I do (only when I feel its really necessary though) which is writing them a letter.

Yep...

A letter.

Sometimes pages long, other times a short paragraph or two - but always enough to convey those feelings I wish I could express (but often don't get the chance because sometimes they may be a little hard to talk to, or a little stubborn to actually listen).

Here's the point of me saying all this though; so many times I've seen people close to me in situations where they are fighting and not on speaking terms - but here they are telling me all their feelings (that if the other person could hear would make them feel so much better and help resolve the situation/misunderstanding) - so I say "Why aren't you telling them this?"
Often enough, the response I get is "They wont listen if I try."
And so,
I say: "Why not write it down in a letter?"

Most of the times people just mock this idea or say they can't be bothered, but honestly I feel it works so well sometimes. I mean I can't promise it will always work, but in my experience..it has helped me in a couple of difficult times. I have a couple of people close to me that can be very sensitive and take every word you say to heart or just shut you out when you try and explain yourself to them..so sometimes I find it best for both of us to take a step back and just write what I want to say, leave the note/letter for them somewhere and then give them some time.

Just think about it, every word, feeling, misunderstanding you've wanted to explain to someone (in a particular situation, or maybe even over a long period of time), all written down for them to read without them having the chance to interrupt or shout. Just them reading every word, listening (well in their head!) and maybe for once understanding.

You may think its a little strange, embarrassing, or even weird, but the way I see it, if a relationship is that important to you, a few moments of your day to just explain your feelings in writing can be so helpful and meaningful to that person.

Trust me.

Relationships, whether with family, lovers, or friends, can be tough. We aren't all the same in the way we think and react - sometimes we have to do something a little out of the ordinary to help people understand.

If you think you might be in that situation, or ever are - just consider it. :)

Your words do not need to be poetic or beautiful, just honest.

Honesty is where the true beauty lies.

Good luck,
T x